Sep 24, 20205 minLesson # 21: Learn, love, and serve—the end!One of the things that I admire about my father was his insatiable appetite for learning. No, he never actually sat down with me and...
Sep 17, 20205 minLesson # 20: Being a parent is not for the faint-hearted Being a parent is the ultimate test for (and proof of) anyone’s resolve, endurance, patience, capacity to love unconditionally, faith,...
Sep 10, 20206 minLesson # 19: Have updated maps, will travelAs I told you in my previous blogs, I moved a lot with my husband. So driving across the United States for days was not a big deal. I was...
Sep 3, 20203 minLesson # 18: It’s important to “get back out there” even after a big lossWe all knew this famous Mother Goose’s nursery rhyme as a kid: Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall Humpty Dumpty had a great fall All the King's...
Aug 28, 20204 minLesson # 17: It is essential to ask deeper questionsThe most annoying question a child asks parents is “but why?” when being told to do a task. So most parents quickly answer with “because...
Aug 20, 20205 minLesson # 16: Mission, and vision, and calling, oh my!When I was four, my mission in life was to grow up to be a bride. I’m sure that hearing fairy tales had a lot to do with that. By seven,...
Aug 13, 20206 minLesson # 15: We need to love our one and only body! We only have one body for our entire life. This is it! We can’t trade it in for a new model just because it doesn’t look new anymore, is...
Aug 6, 20204 minLesson # 14: We are “one-of-a-kind” in the entire universe“There exists only one me in the entire universe, a one-time edition that will never be duplicated ever again.” Have you ever pondered...
Jul 30, 20204 minLesson # 13: Our strength comes from remembering who we are Life and loss are intertwined. Because life is a series of change, and change is basically a loss of “what was and what used to be.” Even...
Jul 23, 20204 minLesson # 12: What to do when the going gets toughIt has been my observation that life is a thrilling journey—one that offers vast variety along the way as if the Universe doesn’t want...
Jul 16, 20203 minLesson # 11: It is possible to be happy and have fun again after lossThis is a challenging concept to consider for anyone whose life has just been turned upside down due to a loss of any kind....
Jul 9, 20204 minLesson # 10: We can choose to focus on what we no longer have or on what we still haveIt’s only natural that after we have lost something, we focus on what is now missing and talk about it (usually in great detail) because...
Jul 2, 20203 minLesson # 9: We can choose to be a victim or a victor We all have had unfortunate events happened to us. We may have lost a job, friendship, a relationship, health, physical ability,...
Jun 25, 20204 minLesson # 8: Let your loved one off the hook! Loss changes us in so many ways. Some of the changes are drastic and sudden, while others are more subtle and gradual. But one thing is...
Jun 19, 20203 minLesson # 7: Love goes on beyond death, but how?We all want to believe that love goes on beyond death. It’s easy to say, “I will always love him/her” after someone has died. But how do...
Jun 11, 20203 minLesson # 6: Each one of us is a multi-faceted individual, including our dearly departed There is a tendency in all of us to put our loved one on a pedestal. No one wants to speak badly of the dead. I didn’t either for a long...
Jun 4, 20204 minLesson # 5: Connect the dots to healWhenever I face a challenge (undesirable task, a difficult conversation, a risk I need to take, etc.) and find myself avoiding it,...
May 28, 20203 minLesson # 4: There is a distinction between facts and the story I make about them The fact is my husband died of a sudden heart attack that night. The doctor told me that his arteries were ninety-nine percent blocked....
May 21, 20203 minLesson # 3:Everyone is doing the best they can with what they know at a particular timeAfter my husband died, I often pondered the following questions: Would he still be alive if I had taken the short cut to the hospital the...
May 14, 20203 minLesson # 2: We are stronger than we thinkMuch like the peony bush that seems more fragile than an oak tree, we are stronger than we believe we are. The peony stems grow straight...